WRITING SAMPLES

Own the Room with a Bow Tie

Wearing a bow tie projects an image of self-confidence and individuality. It’s dressy but not stiff, quirky yet eminently professional.

By Forrest Dylan Bryant
February 2015

This post originally appeared on LinkedIn Pulse

In a world where “business casual” has become the norm in most workplaces and our most dynamic industries are fueled by twenty-somethings in t-shirts and jeans, a bow tie stands out. But if you think a bow is merely quaint, conservative, or nerdy, think again.

I’ve been wearing bow ties for over twenty years, and believe me when I say that sporting one conveys distinct advantages—both to your own self-esteem and the ways in which others interact with you, in the office or on the street.

The power of the bow

Wearing a bow tie projects an image of self-confidence and individuality. It’s dressy but not stiff, quirky yet eminently professional. It declares you as a dependable, serious-minded man, but also a friendly fellow with a good sense of humor. The bow tie wearer is in league with Bill Nye, Winston Churchill, and Frank Sinatra, but also with fictional characters like Indiana Jones or Buckaroo Banzai—bold men, all.

When I wear a bow tie, I feel more self-assured and in control of my space. I stand a little taller. And people respond to that confidence with politeness and respect. Wear a bow tie, non-ironically and with conviction, and you can own the room.

They’re even trendy now, thanks to Matt Smith’s tenure on Doctor Who and a resurgence among young celebrities. Hipsters from Brooklyn to the Mission are adopting them, and barriers have fallen—it’s perfectly fine to wear a bow tie with a nice pair of jeans, for example. But bow ties remain a classic style that will still look good long after the hipsters have moved on.

Four keys to rocking a bow tie

1. Know your styles & materials

When shopping for a bow tie, you’ll have several decisions to make regarding shape, material, and pattern. Be sure to look around to see what best matches your style.

Shape

• The “butterfly” or “standard” is the classic triangular bow tie shape, suitable for all body types and occasions. These are usually about 2.5 inches tall.
  
  
• “Straight” or “slim line” ties are narrow and rectangular. They have a simple, contemporary look, great for men with slimmer figures.
  
  
• “Batwing” or “diamond point” ties may be straight or tapered. Pointed ends give them a distinctive, vintage appearance.

Materials:

• Most fine bow ties are made of silk, but cotton weave is also common and can be good for a less formal look. There are even hipster bow ties made out of wood or other crazy materials, if you really want to go there.
  
  
• Patterns are usually printed. If you’re willing to spend more, woven patterns have a rich, striking look. But be aware that woven ties can be a lot thicker and more difficult to knot.

2. Choose a good retailer

For a long time, it was difficult to find good bow ties except at high-end clothiers or via mail order. Today, you can find a small selection of bow ties at most department stores. And vintage clothing shops will usually have a few bows buried amongst the piles of long ties.

For selection and convenience, your best bet is to shop online. Many of my ties were mail ordered from Beau Ties Ltd. of Vermont, which has a huge, ever-changing line of interesting designs and great handmade quality. Bow Tie Club is another solid option. But whenever I'm visiting New York, I make it a point to visit Seigo Neckwear in Manhattan.

If you want a tie with a message, BowTie Cause partners with local and national charities to produce specialty ties as a way to spread awareness and raise money. You may have seen sports reporter Ken Rosenthal sporting these at last year’s World Series.

3. Always tie it yourself

This is important. Do you want to look poised and self-sufficient or like Pee-Wee Herman?

A piece of cloth tied by hand shows the unique flair of the hands that tie it. A pre-tied or clip-on tie has no flair: instead of being smart and individual, it will look stiff and fake. And that conveys exactly the opposite impression from a proper bow tie.

Learn to tie your own and never look back. It’s really quite easy once you get the hang of it. The tie will be imperfect, and this is good. A slight flaw, the saying goes, is the mark of a true gentleman.

Here’s a diagram showing how it’s done. If you prefer a video, this demonstration from The Art of Manliness is easy to follow:

4. Be confident

Wearing a bow tie is a bold choice that tells the world you’re levelheaded, independent, and ready to tackle whatever life throws your way. Clothes may not make the man, but they do reflect who you are, so wear your bow ties with pride.

Now go forth and show ‘em what you’ve got.

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